Question about Singles/Families for missionaries:
"My spouse wants to be a missionary and I do not. How have other married couples with differing desires made their decision?"
What was I afraid of? Many things: that I wouldn't be able to handle it, that I'd go nuts, and that I wouldn't be able to adopt a second child.
Seven years later God opened a door for us to take a short-term trip to Central Asia. Even then, I knew we would be returning there to live, but I did not want to go. I began to cry. Finally, Chuck wrestled with God and made the life-changing decision that we would go overseas even if we had to raise support. I agreed. I couldn't believe myself! I had come full circle on the issue, and I knew this was one more obstacle in which the Lord wanted me to trust him.
Then there was the issue of our parents. Neither of our parents were believers nor were the rest of our immediate families. We had two boys and the only grandchildren on either side. We knew that both sets of parents would be against our going but God worked even that out. Even though our parents did not really want us to go overseas, they did not make a big fuss. They were as supportive as they could be, even though they would miss the boys and us greatly and worry a lot to boot.
Excerpted from the book Scaling the Wall: Overcoming Obstacles to Missions Involvement, by Kathy Hicks.
Don't let this damage your marriage relationship. To be honest, geographical location is far less important than serving God wholeheartedly wherever we are and whatever we are doing. Affirm each other, build each other up and seek God together. If he wants you to go, he will give you peace, which is not necessarily the same as a burning excitement about going! If he doesn't, he can show that to your husband and enable him to let go of his dreams and find ways to serve at home. For example, agencies all need support staff at the home end. Whatever you do, don't go unless you are both sure it's right.
There are other ways in which a couple can serve in missions: on your church mission board, going on or leading short-term teams, supporting missionaries financially, hosting missionaries and foreign visitors in your home, or being involved with organizations such as Wycliffe Associates or others who rely heavily on home-based membership. These activities might even lead the reluctant spouse into overseas service.
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